Tips for the on-going separation process

As we head into a new week, keep in mind that your child might feel a bit reluctant to come back to school, especially after the weekend. Home and family are so comfortable, and school is so new! They may say they don’t want to come, or don’t want you to go. Be ready to hold their hand a bit through the entry routine. You can acknowledge their feelings, and remind them that teachers are here to help them. You could also remind them about some of the things they found fun in the last few days. Try to arrive on time so that you don’t feel rushed through the arrival process.

When you arrive, you or your caregiver may need to spend a few extra minutes settling them in. Help them hang their things and wash their hands.  If they’re upset, it’s not a good time to ask your child to decide what will help them settle in. Have a couple options in mind to get them started. Many kids find sand, water and playdough soothing, so those are good places to start. For something with a more definite ending, reading a book together can become a nice ritual before saying goodbye. Try to make a clear plan and stick to it.

“I’ll come help you wash hands, and then we’ll read one book before I say goodbye.”

“After we make this picture, I’m going to fold it and put it in your pocket so you can keep it with you.”

Kids often like to have or hold on to something from home or something of yours. (For instance, an old work ID to hold or a hairband, a clip or a pin to wear.) You can walk your child over to one of us to help with the goodbye when you’re ready.

With more experience, kids will come to better anticipate the rhythms of the weekend, and the home to school transitions.