A New Mural at Park West: Meeting the Artist

A recent Classroom Newsletter from one of our Junior Kindergarten classes.

This past Thursday, JK-West found out that our school would be expecting a visitor. An artist (writer/illustrator) and friend of our school, Elisha Cooper, would be coming to paint a mural in our multi-purpose room. Most kids know that it’s the room next to our school entrance. Some kids have had enrichment classes or projects during summer camp in this room. And for those who don’t know, we’d all be going to see the room soon. Before heading all the way down to our gym, we stopped off in the multi-purpose room to see it before the artist came to do his work. Here, kids and teachers had the chance to see the room, notice the plain blue and white walls and some of the prep that had begun to take place (step ladders, art supplies). We then had a quick glance at a photo. The artist had sent school an “idea” of what the mural may look like when it’s finished. Kids noticed certain parts of the room in the photo and shared other comments before we made our way out.

After gym and snack time, kids had the chance to glance at several of Elisha’s books and recall parts of one book we had already read as a group, A Good Night Walk. Kids were interested and curious, questioning, When did he paint all of these pictures? How did he do ALL of that?! Then, Melissa and Zoe from the office entered our room with a guest. The artist had come to join us at group time! Elisha pulled out supplies from his backpack and began to share his plan. He’d use some paintbrushes, but first, a pencil. He showed us the photo of his idea again, and explained his “concept” of using a tree, cubs and bears.

Even though he has all of these ideas, he mentioned that it might not turn out just like this. When kids began to question, Elisha said that sometimes new ideas, or mistakes happen while he’s working. Mistakes? What?! Kids were certainly curious about this and several commented, You can make a mistake? or Oh, well I never make mistakes (hehe). Elisha said that yes, he does make mistakes. What does Elisha do when he makes mistakes? Sometimes, I get frustrated and tear up the paper and try again. Sometimes, I look at it and decide to “incorporate” the change into my work. It gives me a different idea, and I use it! One JK kid playfully commented, Don’t tear down our whole wall! Oh, how we chuckled at that! Someone else repeated it, and Elisha reassured us he would not.

From there, Elisha showed us another technique he utilizes when feeling disappointed or frustrated. Circles. Elisha tries to remember the shape of circles when it’s feeling difficult to remember how to draw things. So many things can be made with circles, watch. Using our classroom dry erase board, Elisha then demonstrated how to make several animals using different sizes and shapes of circles. Some are small and round, some “pressed” together (oval-like shapes), some are like the letter C. Elisha then showed us some of the ways he draws faces and people, and we surely had quite a few moments of laughter!

Teachers then mentioned that Elisha knows a story about a beaver, a story we would be reading at story time that day! Elisha, will you please show us how you like to make that character, Beaver? Kids excitedly waited as Elisha began to draw, Oh yes! Beavers are actually one of my favorite animals to draw because their round shape is made up of so many circles.

As Elisha finished up his drawing, kids looked on and began to ask other questions such as When will we get to help you paint? I want to help..raise your hand if you want to help him paint. What a lovely offer, but Elisha let us know that he’d be using his pencil to draw and sketch the mural on the wall and the painting would happen on Friday (a JK red dot day). We will see it on a next school day. Our guest said he was off to start his planning in the multi-purpose room. JK said goodbye, and headed off to our own work at play time. Some kids, inspired by our group time Q and A, painted or immediately took to the concept of utilizing circles in their drawings. Wow!

At story time, we then looked at Elisha’s book Beaver is Lost. This book depicts Beaver’s adventure of finding their way back home through beautiful watercolor images. Kids noticed clues, That’s downtown! The skyscrapers, the zoo! (Oh, right. Elisha did say he used to live in Chicago, didn’t he?!) Finally, Beaver makes it “HOME.” For table time, kids were then invited to think about where Beaver may go next. Teachers reminded kids how Elisha used circles to create Beaver. Kids had a few options. On the table, there was a copy of Elisha’s group time drawing of Beaver. Kids could look on and draw their own version of Beaver. Or, there was a paper including a miniature version of that drawing, or a miniature copy of the watercolor painting version of Beaver from the story. Kids came up with such amazing ways to incorporate one or all of these into their work that afternoon.

Have you heard any bits of this news at home? Or perhaps seen any drawings full of circles these past few days? Inspired to do some doodling yourself? We hope so, and hope you can take a peek at the mural soon. What a beautiful new addition to our Park West building and community!

Happy doodling!
Jenna, Anita, Sarah

A Glimpse Into Our Tots Program: Autonomy

This is a classroom newsletter recently shared by our Tots 1 team. Enjoy this glimpse into our Tots program!

What a fun age 18-30 months is! We truly delight in seeing your child’s personality develop through the weeks and watching them become more confident in their actions at school. A major piece of children’s development at this time is the emergence of autonomy as they begin to understand their individuality as their world becomes increasingly complex. Autonomy is defined as a state of independence and self-determination – and boy, do some of your children express that independence! But of course, we know that children exploring autonomy continue to refer to and rely on their trusted adults for guidance, assurance, and to set boundaries. A child who feels capable and safe in their relationships is a child who can take good risks and recover in the face of disappointment. We’d like to share a few of our observations of children exercising their autonomy at school, as well as a few ways you can foster their desire for more autonomy and independence at home.

Snack Time

Many children are beginning to demonstrate their emerging autonomy and sense of self-capability when serving themselves during snack time at school by using scoops and tongs, pouring their own water, and putting their dishes and garbage in their places when they’re finished. These are all ways children are utilizing their growing skills (to name a few: fine motor control, one-to-one correspondence, volume and weight, societal expectations of table etiquette!) to build competency and competence in a safe space designed with children’s autonomy and accessibility in mind. Learning to feed oneself is not only a satisfying accomplishment for a young child but also a necessary and functional life skill that lays a strong foundation for positive self-care habits throughout development.

We encourage you and your caregiver to support your child in serving themselves - if they do not initiate, invite them to try to use the serving utensils, pour their own water (we only put a little in the pitcher to make it manageable), and/or clean up after themselves. They will likely need your help, but warmly encourage them to keep trying while resisting the urge to provide more than minimal assistance. Remember - spills are a vital (and inevitable) part of the process!

Free Play Time

At play time children are exerting their independence and finding autonomy as they move freely throughout the classroom to self-select which materials they will explore next. Providing a play space with choices allows children to find what feels right for them, and gives them the opportunity to experiment with and enjoy what they’ve chosen for themselves for an extended period of time. When setting up play spaces to foster autonomy, we find it beneficial to offer just a few curated choices designed in an appealing, accessible way to prevent sensory overwhelm and reduce the need for adult intervention.

Many children have tried the variety of sensory materials offered – some materials are more familiar, like play dough, and children dig right in, whereas others, like kinetic sand and shaving cream, have entirely different properties and feature novel textures. Just as it is for us adults, gearing up to try something new can take time! Our independent thinkers are using their discerning judgment and observation skills to decide when and if they would like to engage in a new sensory experience. When (or if) they choose to engage, they are often delighted to impress designs upon playdough, or to create new color shades in shaving cream. They have been using their fine motor skills to squeeze the glue bottle in just the right place and then carefully place the next piece of tissue paper on the spot of glue. For those who discover they dislike the stickiness of glue on their hands, they are learning with experience that it can be easily wiped off or will simply dry quickly.

We recognize the children’s autonomy in small ways by honoring their choice to touch shaving cream and in how long they want to wash babies. In a world where children are permitted so few choices, school is a crucial space for them to make their own decisions!

We have noticed a common interest across our class: vehicles. To honor this interest we’ve created play spaces featuring trains, cars, trucks, and boats on the rug, atop the table by the window, in the gym, and in the sand and water tables. We even painted with cars a few weeks ago! Vehicle play offers children more than just a theme, however. We observe how the children have been working hard to hook trains together, connect train tracks and roads, identify road signs, and negotiate with the other drivers on the track/road.

Gym Time

Our sessions always begin in the gym, where the children can warm up to the environment and peers by using big body movements and through expressing emotion. The children have learned that the gym is a place where they can move their body in a unique way and try out new, often challenging, physical feats. They can build with big squishy blocks and lift them themselves! They can decide to go down the slide, try out the climbing wall, crash into the pillows, or scale the ladder. These are all bold opportunities in which children are utilizing their autonomy!

Group Time

During group time children are beginning to follow along with the motions of songs and now know that the Monkey first claps his hands and then cues a different action. They follow along and tap their toes, jump up and down, and wave goodbye at the end. They know what to do and they can show it! We also hear children make requests for specific songs, which signals to us their personal preferences about how we spend our time together.

At Home

At home your child may be picking out their own clothes, deciding which foods they do and do not want to try, and, of course, choosing what toys to play with. Although these may seem like small actions, they are promising signs of budding autonomy in your tot. We encourage you to give your child the space and time to flex that autonomy, and to say ‘yes’ when they want to wear the striped pants with the flower shirt. It often takes a little longer and can be a bit messier, but you will be helping to build their confidence and sense of self as they grow into a young person who is comfortable in their own skin and in expressing their own ideas.

You can also help boost your child’s sense of autonomy by giving them special ‘jobs’ to do to help out. Perhaps you might invite them to help wipe up spilled water or to pour the dog’s food in his dish at dinnertime. These simple but essential tasks bring children a sense of accomplishment and helps them to recognize that they are a valuable and interconnected member of the family whose contributions matter.

We can’t wait to see what your child discovers they can do on their own next and we look forward to helping them make more and more of those discoveries at school over the coming months.

Warmly,
Ashley & Kalei

End of Year Letter to Park West Families

2022-2023 School Year

To the Wonderful Families of Park West Cooperative, 

Our school year has officially come to an end. I have spent lots of time hugging teary eyed parents outside school over these last few days. Parents are joyous, proud, grateful, and in disbelief- how is it already the end? They are growing so fast! And some are asking, what will it be like now that our time at Park West is over?

Each parent and child approaches and reacts to changes differently. Some parents reported that their child was crying for weeks about not wanting school to be over. Other kids express joy and excitement about what is coming next for them. And then others seemed unphased by the changes, like they didn’t even realize what the last day of school really meant. For many kids, this is true, they may need a day or week or a month to realize that it really is over and what that means and only then will you begin to see how this change is impacting them.

The ending of this school year has me thinking a lot about expectations and what we do when our expectations are not met and how we react when something exceeds our expectations. As parents, we can’t help but have expectations of our children. Maybe you thought your child would feel sentimental and celebratory, posing for pictures outside with you but instead they were mad that you didn’t let them eat icecream for breakfast and that seems to be all they are thinking about. Maybe you thought your child would be better at sharing by this time in the year or that they would be finally out of diapers. All of these natural expectations are opportunities for us to remember that we are really just along for the ride with our kids. Even at 2, 3, and 4 years old, they are already a whole person who perceives the world and reacts to it through their own lens and experience. Many of our goals and expectations for our children reflect really positive ideas of how we want our children to grow and the type of person we hope they will become. But in reality, our children’s behaviors and reactions are less a reflection of who they will become and more a communication of what they feel in that moment and what support they need to move through the experience and build new skills. 

Our children's behavior is communication, plain and simple. But how hard for us, as parents, when those communications don’t match our adult expectations or they don’t easily draw us into relationship with our children but instead frustrate or confuse us. My advice during this big transition is: get curious. Be an observer, a commenter, and offer a reflection back to your children to help them gain awareness of how they feel and what their behavior is telling you about what they need. Rather than digging into an agenda to fix the problem (negative behavior, big feelings, regression) just notice it, try to provide language to help your child understand what you see and then let the repair happen on it’s own, I promise it will. Offer your child generosity, knowing that regressions and difficult behavior are really just their best way of telling you how they feel. Remembering this can sometimes make these moments easier to handle and the generosity will pay off when they see that you understand what’s underneath their behavior and that you are there to support them during this big change in routine. 

This practice is really my best advice in life too, not just when it comes to parenting. What do we do when the people around us don’t act the way that we expect them to? What happens when we are hurt or disappointed by each other, when we don’t feel seen or understood? Part of being in a community with other parents and being part of a cooperative school means that along with the community, connection, support, and collaboration; there will inevitably be moments of conflict, misunderstanding, and disappointment. So how do we address these instances as a school and as a community? Here is my advice: get curious and be generous. In any experience I have had over the years with a frustrated parent or a disappointed teacher, I have found that my solutions and opinions are never as helpful as my curiosity. I always want to learn more, to understand the context around someone's feelings and get clarity on their expectations. The more I can really, truly listen to the other person, the easier it is to be empathetic to their situation, even if we disagree. And generosity. I cannot say it enough. Each one of us, child and adult deserves and requires a generous spirit. When a child, parent, or teacher does or says something that surprises me, I think first of the most generous understanding I can offer them. After all we are each imperfect and each of us doing the best that we can with the skills and knowledge that we possess. At Park West I believe that our school thrives when we can each adopt these values of curiosity and generosity towards one another. 

For everyone who is returning next year, I look forward to welcoming you back with curiosity and generosity in the fall. And for those who are saying goodbye to Park West, please know that we will always be your community and we welcome the chance to celebrate life with you and support you in times when you need us, so please stay in touch. I wish you all sunny summer days with your children filled with adventure, joy, curiosity, and generosity. See you again soon!

With warmth and gratitude, 
Melissa Boshans
(she/they)
Director of School, Park West Co-op

Junior Kindergarten: Spring Walk and Journal Writing

It has been such a treat to have such warm days this week. Because it was so beautiful outside, we took a walk with JK to look for signs of spring. We noticed a lot of things starting to grow. Some plants were just peeking out of the dirt and some flowers were starting to bloom. We also noticed the sunny skies, spotted a few birds and saw some other interesting things, such as a broken bicycle and a hopscotch game.

Later at tabletime, we made journal entries about what we noticed on our walk. Though many children choose to write and draw regularly at playtime, a focused journal writing activity provides an opportunity for children to reflect on a specific experience and exercise their growing literacy skills. 

Writing happens on a continuum, so we see many different forms of writing from children this age. At the beginning of the writing continuum is drawing, which can have varying degrees of complexity. In JK, most children are able to do some form of representational drawing. During this particular journal writing activity, children drew a variety of things, ranging from flowers and plants, to sunny skies, to the friend next to whom they were walking. This is what we’re looking for: children accessing their impressions and memories from our walk and putting their ideas on paper.

We include a visual of the date in case children want to add that to their drawing. As the year progresses and children have a deeper understanding of the calendar, we’re seeing more interest in replicating the date. Some choose to skip this step or write just the number while others might include a single letter or even all the letters of the day and month. This gives children practice making letter forms and more experience with these familiar words and numerals.

Once children have completed their drawings, we ask about adding words. For some children, we record their dictation, which helps to demonstrate the process of writing and build the understanding that what is spoken can also be written. Seeing their own words in print can be powerful for children.Some may prefer not to have any words with their drawings and that’s ok, too. 

First attempts at writing are reflective of each child’s understanding of it. Initially, many children make squiggles and will report what those squiggles say. With a bit more experience, these squiggles begin to look more like letters. Eventually, children start to make random letters that, to them, represent their meaning. Each of these steps represents a part of the writing continuum. It is important to both encourage each child’s efforts and affirm that they are all forms of writing. 

We often ask children to help us think about which sounds they hear in words that they want to write and encourage them to write those letters themselves. This type of writing, in which children begin to spell words phonetically, is called invented spelling. When children first begin to use invented spelling, they often start by writing just the first letter sound of a word. As they develop more experience, they might try to add more sounds that they hear, often eliminating vowels. Practice with invented spelling helps children develop the ability to both write and decode the written word.

Most children look forward to journal writing and enjoy creating a record of their thinking. It gives us insight into each child’s literacy development as well as their unique ways of approaching written work. At the end of the school year, children will bring their journals home to share with parents. In the meantime, we value sharing this experience with them in the JK classroom.

Contributed by Park West Co-op Teachers Amanda Speck and Katrina Nousaine Mann, JK-East

“You’re not my friend!” Friendship and Preschool: What it Means and What it Doesn’t

“You’re not my friend!” Makes your heart sink, right? This is a common refrain in the preschool years, but it might not mean exactly the same thing to us as it does to the kids who are using it.

Developmentally, kids who are three and four have typically only just started to solidify their knowledge of the intricacies of working and playing with one other person. Negotiating and compromising, following someone else’s lead, and incorporating someone else’s ideas with your own are very big challenges. With such skills newly acquired, there is a lot of risk in trying to take them to the next level: small groups. This is one reason why we see such extreme defensiveness from some kids. They’re holding onto their relationship with the friend with whom they do feel confident taking risks and trying new ideas.

Here’s where it gets a little more complicated: kids are beginning to realize that they enjoy spending time with lots of other kids, in small groupings and in pairings. But, what do you do with that when you’ve only known friendship to be a concept you share with one other person? You accept someone as your friend when you want to do something with them, but reject them as your friend when you want to spend time with someone else or alone. That’s what friendship means to many kids right now: you are my friend when I am playing with you, you are not my friend when I’m not playing with you. So, most of the time kids are not trying to be hurtful when telling someone they are not their friend. It can be a matter of misunderstanding the complexities of friendship. Kids are still building this concept, and will continue to as long as they keep coming up against interactions and ideas that challenge and expand their preconceived notions.

There are times when someone has picked up on the fact that telling someone, “you’re not my friend,” hurts their feelings, and so they use the phrase to retaliate when they feel like they’ve been wronged, rather than as an exclusionary tactic. In our classes, it often happens when one’s preferred playmate is already engaged in play with another person and does not want to be joined by someone else. The one who is jealous of the relationship their preferred playmate has with someone else might tell them, “you’re not my friend,” in order to try to make them feel as bad and left out as they do. Teachers try to help tease out what is going on in every situation in order to respond appropriately, and that begins by having a conversation with the kids who are involved.

We see the conversations we have with kids about what it means to be a friend to be beneficial for each person involved. When there is a conflict, we try to slow everyone down and really get to what is at heart for each person. We try to be free from judgment and ask simple questions like, “Did you say Matt is not your friend?” “You played with Matt in the gym today, and it looked like you were friends. Why not now?” Sometimes there are clues we can pick up on: a child’s eyes following another peer while trying to work through the conversation, or an existing play scenario with another person nearby. Then, we might ask something like, “Did you want to play with Samantha right now instead of Matt?” or “Is Matt having a turn to play with Jason?”

Once we know what the motivation was, we can help work out a solution or compromise. “It’s okay to tell Matt that you want to play with Samantha. Do you think you’ll want to play with Matt again another time?” Usually, the answer is yes, and we help work out a plan for when this will be. If not, we talk about why not. Sometimes feelings have been hurt on both sides and it’s not until we acknowledge the moments leading up to both experiences that kids can move forward.

Depending on where kids are developmentally, we might nudge someone a little more towards trying to incorporate another peer into play, but we’re not looking to move that faster than anyone is ready for. We think everyone needs time to master one-on-one play before moving into small group play. If there does seem to be malicious intent, we are clear about why this is not okay, but we still try to have a conversation about the motivations involved. Among other things, we see these conversations as opportunities for expanding emotional vocabulary, and offer new words to describe the nuanced feelings involved: “it sounds like you are jealous that she is playing with someone else, and it’s okay to tell her that” or “it looks like you are disappointed that she doesn’t want to play with you right now.”

Not everyone leaves these conversations happy. A lot of the time, someone is still hurt and has to then face the challenge of finding something else to do when they still want to be with their original choice. Teachers assist kids in this process with suggestions for other kids to be with or activities to try. And, there are times when someone is so overwhelmed by emotions that we suggest they just take a break from trying to be with someone else. We help them settle into another activity alone or with a teacher, and revisit the conversation about friendship after they’ve calmed down.

Our approach looks different from child to child. As with every point of development, each person is in a slightly different place; we respect that, and try to meet everyone where they are. We will be assessing and reassessing where each child is and what we can do to scaffold their development throughout the year.

When you hear about hurt feelings at home, comfort your child, but try to have a conversation about friendship too. You can use examples from your own life as models for the complexities of friendship: you and your partner probably don’t do everything together even though you love them, and maybe you have a friend you only see a few times a year, or one friend is fun to have dinner with, but you enjoy going to a museum with another. Reassure them that if they didn’t play with the pal they hoped to one day, they might the next, and ask questions about what they did do that day. Try not to fuel their hurt with your worry. If you think we’re unaware of something that is causing your child pain and confusion, write your teachers a note and they can observe your child’s peer interactions more closely and follow-up with you.

Contributed to by Park West Co-Op teacher Amanda Speck